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Raspberry Flower Essence: “The Healer’s Healer”

Chapter 28

Raspberry Flower EssenceKeywords: Kindness, Compassion

(excerpted from The Essential Flower Essence Handbook)

1 oz 1/2 oz

Qualities: Kindness, Compassion
Message of Self-Mastery: Forgiveness; sympathy; taking responsibility for one’s actions; benevolence; generosity; for releasing old wounds; desire to help others; the ability to “turn the other cheek.”

Almond: Self-control
Apple: Peaceful clarity
Avocado: Good memory
Banana: Humility
Blackberry: Purity of thought
Cherry: Cheerfulness
Coconut: Awareness
Corn: Mental vitality
Date: Sweetness,
tenderness
Fig: Flexibility
Grape: Love, devotion
Lettuce: Calmness
Orange: Joy
Peach: Unselfishness
Pear: Peacefulness
Pineapple: Self-assurance
Raspberry: Kindness,
compassion
Spinach: Simplicity,
guilelessness
Strawberry: Dignity
Tomato: Strength,
endurance

Pattern of Disharmony: Feelings easily hurt; a touchy nature; for taking things too personally; for when people say hurtful things; overreactive-ness; insensitivity; for lashing out; lacking understanding; blaming others; resentment; bitterness; attitude of “I don’t deserve this”; unkindness.

AFFIRMATION

In kindness I am one with all. The perfume of unconditional love blows through me to touch their hearts.

POSITIVE EXPRESSIONS

Kind-hearted Forgiving
Able to let go Generous
Sympathetic Able to release hurts
Benevolent Understanding
Empathetic Wise
Compassionate Good listener
Loving

NEGATIVE CONDITIONS

Bitter Holding grudges
Resentful Mean
Easily hurt Cruel
Over-reactive Nasty
Insensitive to others Unkind
Blaming of others Lashing out
Touchy Overly emotional

TESTIMONIALS

“I wanted to be able to let go and forgive a former boyfriend. This took place on Raspberry. I also wanted to let go of blaming my daughter, to forgive her and myself for things that had happened between us. On Raspberry, a real shift took place within me and my attitude towards Juliette has changed. I feel that the hurt has healed.” -CNF, Palo Alto, CA

“My chiropractor muscle-tested me for Spirit-in-Nature. Raspberry came up really strongly. He called me a ‘tough nut to crack.’ I took it for a week and was able to see that I had been thinking only of myself in many of my relationships.” -JP, Los Angeles, CA

“I work with people a lot and periodically do month-long programs. I was concerned about not losing the connection with my students. Raspberry helped me stay connected.” -JV, Nevada City, CA

“Taking Raspberry for a week got me thinking about how I treat others in relationships. My response to this essence was very strong.” -JP, Ventura, CA

“My twenty-one-year-old daughter noticed a nice difference in me on Raspberry and wondered what had gotten into me.” -CL, Cottage Grove, OR

FAMOUS QUOTE

“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates
profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”
-Lao-tzu

FLOWER /FRUIT/FOLKLORE

This hardy species of the rose family was first cultivated four hundred years ago in Europe and now grows wild in Britain and much of the Northern hemisphere. The Cherokee Indians made much use of the purple variety. From the tiny white flowers on the thorny stems of this bramble fruit, upright canes grow and produce berries. Raspberries are a good source of vitamins A and C. They are an excellent cleanser for mucus, catarrhal conditions and for toxins in the body. Raspberry leaf tea is a superior female tonic, especially for pregnancy and painful menstruation.

SPECTRUM PLACEMENT

(see explanation of The Essence Spectrum Chart)

Quadrant IV’s fourth house marks the turning point from Strawberry’s sense of self-worth to Raspberry’s heightened sensitivity to others. It is the house of kindness, forgiveness and compassion. Called the “healer’s essence,” Raspberry combines the feminine quality of the heart’s intuition with the finely aged wisdom that is characteristic of this last Quadrant. It is an apt transitional essence for Grape, being expansively loving and profoundly caring.

POSITIVE APPLICATIONS

Raspberry could be called the essence for our age, with its feminine gentleness and compassionate nurturing so needed in these troubled times. One in the positive Raspberry state is both forgiving and compassionate. Similar to other Quadrant IV essences, positive Raspberry reflects our understanding that the hurts that come to us are our teachers. Our lesson is to reciprocate only love when others treat us poorly. Our task is not to retaliate, but rather to deflect their unkindness and thus be freed of any emotional thorns of inner conflict.

Those who have learned this lesson of Raspberry make excellent teachers, counselors and therapists. These individuals qualify for any occupation that involves working closely with others, for they have mastered the ability to transmute negative and harmful emotions. To hold a grudge does far more damage to the holder than the individual at whom it is directed. Grudges are like bricks-one by one, they create an entire wall of resentment, preventing a forward movement of energy. Grudges leave one heavy-hearted, even hard-hearted, instead of the desired opposite-kindhearted.

The positive Raspberry state acts as a vibrational salve for the wounds of the heart. The healing professions abound with individuals strong in Raspberry-like qualities, simply because their own past pains have taught them great compassion. Sympathizing, empathizing and listening are their hallmarks. Lastly, please know that you needn’t be emotionally wounded to take Raspberry. It also helps kind people to be even kinder!

NEGATIVE INDICATIONS

The negative Raspberry condition is present in those who are easily hurt; who react emotionally; who lash out without apparent reason or who are just plain “not nice.” All of these actions can indicate either an immaturity, in the sense of not yet having matured, or an aftershock to an emotional wound not yet healed. Men more often than women tend to express this angry/hurt pattern because our culture does not allow them to openly show their feelings. Those who do so may find themselves objects of ridicule that only serves to further suppress their true feelings.

If Raspberry is the essence for forgiveness, then the negative Raspberry state is one of bitterness, resentment and blaming others. Administering this essence will either allow the issue in question to dissolve or to be talked out until the emotional climate is cleared.

Raspberry is the essence for partners in relationships that terminate without satisfactory reconciliation. When dear friendships end on a bitter note, Raspberry is indicated. For long-term relationships ending in separation with no friendship salvaged, this essence is again recommended. When marriages dissolve into ugly court battles or lingering animosities, again, look to Raspberry. Sadly, ours is a culture rent with divorce, although there are cases in which no other solution is possible. Especially if children are involved, Raspberry helps to initiate a peaceable friendship and thereby minimize the emotional scarring for all involved.

THEME CHARACTERISTICS

(see explanation of Theme Flower Essences)

The physical characteristics of the Raspberry theme are subtle. Similar but not identical to Date’s softness around the eyes, Raspberry theme energy is detectable as a gentleness in the eyes. Looking into the eyes of a Raspberry theme will make you want to pour out your heart. The unspoken message is, “I am here for you. Please share anything that will help you to make peace with yourself.” A Raspberry theme is trusting, trustworthy and “safe” to talk to. Look for those rosy Raspberry cheeks so characteristic of this theme.

You will not find many Raspberry themes in the public eye, but rather administering loving support behind the scenes. These are the quiet cheerleaders and champions of humanity-the counselors, teachers and volunteer workers. Like Banana themes, they make wonderful listeners. Similar to Almond themes, they remain inconspicuous and tend to pass unnoticed through life’s maddening crowds. You could say that Raspberry themes are “all heart”-and the heart at its best excels in the quality of loving receptivity.

Interestingly, in the context of food combining, raspberries are the only fruit that can be eaten with either acidic or alkaline foods. Metaphorically speaking, the Raspberry theme being self-forgiving and forgiving of others, can move through life quietly, able to mix with many different personality types.

FAMOUS THEME PERSONALITIES

  • Forrest Gump
  • Dr. Edward Bach
  • Joseph Cornell
  • Anne Frank
  • Maria Montessori
  • Oprah Winfrey
  • Carrie Chapman Catt
  • Edgar Cayce
  • Corrie Ten Boom

“I’m not a smart man, but I know what love is.” With these words, Forrest Gump-the film’s star and namesake-quietly accepted his sweetheart’s marriage proposal rejection. He harbors no bitterness and no need to retaliate. There is only his straight-from-the-heart Raspberry theme confession. The movie, Forrest Gump, spans three decades of American history. From polio survivor to football legend, from Vietnam war medals to White House honors, Mr. Gump became the world’s most unassuming “godzillionaire.” He used the resources of his heart and his wallet to enrich the lives of those around him.

Polio confined the young Forrest to leg braces. In one of the film’s more powerful scenes, we see a slow-motion close-up of his legs. As he begins to “run like the wind blows,” Forrest breaks free of his braces, and of the delusion of physical frailty. Ironically, he is chased by bullies in this scene, for whom he harbors no ill will. The young Forrest, caring to a fault, expresses the depth of Raspberry’s forgiveness by returning only love to his aggressors-his unkind schoolmates, a bitter lieutenant and the woman who scorns him for many years.

Lest we be tempted to label Forrest as a Spinach theme merely on the basis of a below-average IQ, a Spinach sub-theme is more accurate for the positive qualities of his childlike nature. Set in a time of our country’s rebellious hippie drug years, Forrest’s Spinach-like innocence and trust of people’s innate goodness inspire us. An accusatory, sarcastic Lieutenant Dan who lost both legs in the war-and a perfect example of the negative Raspberry state-barks, “Gump, have you found Jesus yet?” With Spinach-like simplicity, Forrest responds, “I didn’t know I was supposed to be lookin’ for ‘im.”

CONFESSIONS OF A RASPBERRY THEME: IN DENICE’S WORDS

“I love being around people. I really enjoy one-on-one interactions, and I like in-depth conversations. I’m not really good at small talk, nor do I enjoy it. I never know what to say in small talk! There’s just so much else to say, I feel really foolish. I’d just rather go to the heart.

“Qualities I most admire in others? There are so many! I especially admire those who share unconditional love and are non-judgmental and open-hearted, and balanced with head and heart. I really value the heart qualities. Now that I think about it, I have tremendous respect for people who have a lot of heart but are also clear thinkers and practical.

“I’m certainly striving to be kind-hearted. I feel like my mother is the epitome of kind-hearted-just so loving and giving to others. I think it’s something to aspire to. I don’t know that I’ve reached it. It’s my ideal, though I feel I’ve fallen short of it.

“My feelings are easily hurt, and I have to work at not taking things so personally. Right now, I’m doing a lot of introspection. I’m working now on releasing old wounds. I feel like God said, ‘I’m going to give you an incredible home and life in which to release all your old pain.’ I was saying to my husband today that I feel like I should be an old, wise woman. That’s really what I want to be-kind of a feminine nurturer, the crone figure who can help others because she’s experienced it or just because she knows.

“I love raspberries! Making raspberry jam-giving it away as presents in those wonderful little jars at Christmastime. It’s my favorite icing on chocolate cake. I don’t do chocolate icing on chocolate cake, only raspberries on top!”

WRAPPING IT UP

There is a true story of a rabbi who lost his entire family-wife, child and parents-in the Holocaust. Epitomizing the positive Raspberry state, he chose forgiveness over bitterness and resentment. Why? He said he did not want to bring Hitler along with him on his move to America.

Forgiveness heals the body as well as the heart. The contrary is also true. Studies have shown that reliving past hurts over and over again is physically harmful and that the mere memory of an unresolved bitter incident is stressful to the heart. Lingering grudges have been linked to coronary artery disease, high blood pressure and lowered immunity to other diseases.

Raspberry, then, is a vital essence for emotional well-being. In choosing to let go of past hurts, we embrace health. As Confucius reminds us, “To be wronged is nothing unless you remember it.” In taking responsibility for our actions-being loving instead of nursing hurts-we become whole in ways that allow us to in turn help others in their quest for wholeness. Raspberry is the healer of hurts; the comforter of pain; the balm for the wounded warrior who refuses to exit the battlefield until he has conquered every obstacle to his goal-the ability to love perfectly.

RASPBERRY Contrasted With: Companioned With:
Cherry for lightheartedness to balance lightness with depth of insight
Grape for relating to others without expectation or need for a heart that is both open and fearless
Peach for compassion, caring deeply for others for “being there” for those in need

ESSENCE ENHANCERS

Develop existing friendships. Call a good friend and just be a listener.

If you have any friendships or relationships that have ended bitterly or are unresolved, patch them up. If this is not possible due to death or their unwillingness, work with prayer to reach a resolution within yourself. Other options are: a self-help book or prayer.

Repeat the following visualization until you feel the relationship in question is cleared of all negativity.

VISUALIZATION

Sit quietly in a comfortable place.

With closed eyes, focus your attention at your heart center-not the physical organ but the center of your astral spine that both gives and receives love. The physical heart is finite; the heart’s spirit is infinite. Feel the boundaries of your heart expanding. Identify yourself with that boundless expanse of space. Now draw to mind friends and family members whom you love. Perhaps some have passed on or moved away. Let not time or distance impede the flow of kindly, loving thoughts to them.

Imagine these dear people, one by one, as children. One at a time, reach down and take each one’s hand as you walk through a flowered mountain meadow together. Feel a current of love coursing from your heart through your arm, and out your palm into theirs.

Hold this image of walking through a meadow. This time, though, the person’s hand in yours belongs to someone who has deeply hurt you. Resist the instinctive, self-protective desire to withdraw your hand. Deliberately and consciously extend a flow of heart energy to this individual. Rather than focusing on the details of what needs to be forgiven and whatever sharp thread of bitterness that remains, concentrate on sending love.

Let these waves of love blend with the delicate aroma of the wildflowers and the cool mountain breeze. To give love to those dear to you is kindly; to return only loving kindness to those who have hurt you is heroic.

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Disclaimer
Contents
Introduction

PART I

1 The Consciousness of Flowers
2 The Evolution of Flower Essences
3 Flower Essences: Seers, Sages and Herbalists
4 The Origin of Spirit-in-Nature Essences
5 The Flower Essence Experiment: A Biofeedback Brainstorm
6 How Flower Essences Work
7 To Everything There Is a Season: The Flower Escence Spectrum Chart
8 Theme and Plot Flower Essences
9 The Door Ajar: How to Use the Flower Essence Chapters

PART II

10 Lettuce Flower Essence: “The Unruffler”
11 Coconut Flower Essence: “The Uplifter”
12 Cherry Flower Essence: “The Good Cheer Messenger”
13 Spinach Flower Essence: “The Uncomplicator”
14 Peach Flower Essence: “The Selfless Mother”
15 Corn Flower Essence: “The Energizer”
16 Tomato Flower Essence: “The Purposeful Warrior”
17 Pineapple Flower Essence: “The Confident One”
18 Banana Flower Essence: “The Humble Servant”
19 Fig Flower Essence: “The Non-Disciplinarian”
20 Almond Flower Essence: “The Self-Container”
21 Pear Flower Essence: “The Peacemaker”
22 Avocado Flower Essence: “The Mindful One”
23 Apple Flower Essence: “The Clear Mental Skies”
24 Orange Flower Essence: “The Smile Millionaire”
25 Blackberry Flower Essence: “The All-Purpose Purifier”
26 Date Flower Essence: “The Conscious Cookie Jar”
27 Strawberry Flower Essence: “The Noble One”
28 Raspberry Flower Essence: “The Healer’s Healer”
29 Grape Flower Essence: “The Rewarder”

PART III

30 Making Flower Essences, Taking Flower Essences
31 Symptom and Core Approaches for Flower Essences: A Few Case Studies
32 Shadows on a Screen: Flower Essences for Menopause and Codependence
33 The Joyful Art of Flower Essences Consultation
34 Little Blossoms: Flower Essences for Our Children
35 Four-Footed Friends and Other Critters: Flower Essences for Pets and Animals
36 Flower Essences: Finding The Essence of Life
37 Recipes in Harmony with the Nature of Flower Essences
Spirit-in-Nature Flower Essences Index