“One word frees us from all the weight and pain of life; that word is love.”
PRACTITIONER AWARENESS QUIZ
This chapter addresses some of the more common issues on the subject of consultation. As in preparing the essences, the first thing to prepare is yourself. You might review the following check-list, or Practitioner Awareness Quiz. Keep it handy while working with friends, clients or yourself.
Check a number from zero to five, zero meaning that the statement does not apply to you, and five indicating that you strongly agree.
0 1 2 3 4 5
Now total the numbers of your responses. A minimum of thirty-nine points is acceptable for optimum benefits. The higher the number, the more sensitive the consultation.
A peaceful, secure consultation room is very important. Perhaps you have gone for a therapy session and remember in detail the inviting warmth of the treatment room. You too will want to create a location free from distractions such as ringing phones or children popping in- a place that instills a sense of safety. Be sure to avoid any public or crowded places. You’ll want the consultation environment to work with you, not against you. Out-of-doors can be workable too-a secluded patch of lawn, a flower garden or a shady spot under an oak tree’s branches.
If you have an office, you might consider plants, a small bubbly fountain, incense, candles, comfortable chairs, soothing posters or paintings on the walls, a box of tissues and soft instrumental music. Ask your client about the music and incense as you begin the session.
The purpose of a consultation is, basically, to create a relationship between your client and the essences and also to inspire and to uplift. Essence selection involves the intuition, which is like a muscle-the more you use it, the more it will develop. Practitioners employ many tools to access their intuition, including kinesiology (muscle testing) and dowsing. Or, you might simply try seeing yourself as a translator versed in the language of the flowers. Listen to your client ask in his own words, at least three times, for each essence.
“I’m not comfortable at home, even with all the doors safely locked. I’m still healing from past physical abuse. My nervous system feels wired for disaster.” These three client statements point to the need for Pear, to help her feel “at home” within herself. Here’s a helpful tip-if you are unable to “hear” your client ask for specific essences, Pear is a good first essence. It can initiate a clearing of consciousness and sensitize your client to the other essences in the program.
A SAMPLE CONSULTATION
You might try offering a program of five or six essences in a session, to be taken consecutively rather than concurrently, over the course of about four to six weeks. How to assess the length of time on each essence? Use the intuitive method that works best for you. I like to suggest to my clients, as a means of empowering and involving them, that five days, for example, means give or take two on either side, at their discretion. At the end of the program, the client may: (a) choose a follow-up session; (b) absorb and integrate the first program before beginning another; or (c) feel confident enough to work out his own self-assessed program and venture boldly into new essence waters, so to speak.
The theme essence usually falls last in the program and is generally taken for two weeks. This sequence allows the individual to peel back layers of issues before “coming home” to his theme essence. However, this is merely a suggested “essence road map.” You may want to experiment with this method and then evolve your own style. To give an idea of the course a session may take, here is a humorous, fictionalized consultation with someone we all know, using the terms we have studied in the course of this book. Condensed into a short newspaper clipping, it might read as follows:
“Little Red Riding Hood takes a basket of goodies to her ailing grandmother. She is waylaid en route by charming and urbane wolf. Wolf eats grandmother whole. Wolf disguises himself in grandmother’s dressing gown and eats girl for dessert. Huntsman rescues girl and elder relative from wolfs belly, slings pelt across shoulders and ambles home.”
Were Little Red Riding Hood to come for a flower essence consultation, we might profile her case in the following way:
Little Red sauntered into my office this morning. A bouquet of wild flowers (that she had stopped to pick, thus making her ten minutes late for our appointment) burst from the famous basket she used to transport Grandma’s goodies. She appeared a bit distracted and also distraught from the recent, and understandable, trauma that day. Her wide, trusting eyes flickered with a passing hint of suspicion. I observed her hesitation. She seemed out-of-sorts with herself-uncomfortable, as though she expected her aggressor to reappear momentarily.
Little Red retold the tale of her visit to Grandmother’s in graphic detail-her mother’s admonition not to dawdle or talk to strangers; the lovely scent of the sweetcakes and wine wafting up from the basket, matched by the windblown aroma of wildflowers along the forest trail; her kindliness in wanting to believe the wolfs foolery; not trusting her instincts to see her ”grandmother” so visibly changed, i.e., “What big ears you have”; and the final blow of being devoured whole.
We then mapped out her essence program. Little Red initially required symptom treatment to deal with the series of events that had thrown her off balance. The first essence in her program was Pear for four days, to deal with the obvious shock and trauma of a fairly disastrous experience. Pear, as a peripheral plot essence, could help clear these disturbing cellular memories so that she needn’t be frightened of other wolves in the future. (Remember, too, that Pear is an excellent first essence to prepare your client for the remainder of his essence program.) Tomato for five days, being a second peripheral plot essence, would reinforce Pear’s initial clearing. Addressing any residual fear, Tomato could help Little Red to bounce back more completely. “Undefeated in every trial” is Tomato’s message.
We added one further peripheral plot essence-Blackberry, for one week. Purification being its key quality, this essence could help her to view the recent trauma as a mere bad dream with no lingering negative effects.
Then we arrived at a turning point in her essence program. Little Red was now ready to move to a core treatment approach and to deal with more longstanding life issues. Forgetting her mother’s warning not to wander off or speak to strangers; losing her sense of direction and purpose in the forest; distracted by wildflowers: three times over, she is asking for her pivotal plot essence, Avocado, to be taken for one week and repeated at a later date, as pivotal plot indications recur throughout our lives. Little Red shared during the course of our visit that she routinely lost her homework assignments or turned them in incomplete because they were not challenging enough. Her mother called her absent-minded, indicating a pivotal Avocado plot essence.
Little Red’s Raspberry theme essence concluded our first program, recommended for two weeks, also to be repeated in the future, much like her pivotal plot essence. She was not only kind and loving to her grandmother, which initiated her trip through the woods in the first place, but was loved by all who know her as kindhearted and considerate to playmates and woodland animal friends alike. Raspberry themes see kindness everywhere. Thus she even saw a kindliness in the wicked wolf. A note of interest-the raspberry-colored cloak that she wears every day is another clue to her theme essence.
If she should desire a follow-up consultation, Spinach would undoubtedly be useful to restore her trust and balance it with common sense; to reinforce her childhood innocence; and finally, to ensure an unscarred early life so that she might grow to functional, healthy adulthood.
As for the wolf-had he survived his own treachery, we would have employed core treatment with a focus on Raspberry as his pivotal plot essence, for the ultimate unkindness of eating people whole; suggested Grape as a peripheral plot essence to counteract his ruthlessness and cunning; and offered Blackberry, another peripheral plot essence, to help him counteract his deception of both Little Red and her grandmother.
A WELL-ORCHESTRATED CONSULTATION
To summarize, here are eight keys to a well-presented session. I have added essences to thematically illustrate these points. You may wish to include other elements that you find especially helpful.
Safety-Tomato: An environment that is comforting and comfortable says more than words -that here is a place to let your guard down, to heal and to regain inner strength.
Trust-Spinach: The sensitive practitioner creates a place where each client feels comfortable and relaxed and that who he is, is okay. The healing process is a shared adventure.
Confidentiality-Strawberry: Without respect for the client’s privacy, no progress is possible. This warrants a high level of integrity on the practitioner’s part.
Acceptance-Date: There should be no judgment or blame in your office, either toward the client or those of whom he speaks.
Listening-Banana: Many, many times, this is what people need most. To be heard is a vital part of your client’s healing process.
Support-Apple: To present a more holistic program, offer the corresponding Essence Enhancers, Visualizations, and Affirmations, and the Spirit-in-Nature Essence Songs CD.
Inspiration-Coconut: Remember, we may have faults, but we are not our shortcomings. Inspire your client with a sense of his highest potential.
Hope-Orange: There is always hope, always light at the end of the darkest tunnel. Joy is our true nature. Be sure this message is conveyed to your client, both verbally and vibrationally!
Following this chapter, you will find several pages-a consultation form, the client’s copy of the essence program and a flower essences response sheet. Feel free to duplicate them with the copyright.